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Twelve Questions and Ten Tools for Life and Work 9/1/23

9/1/23

Happy Friday, Friends! 

Holy smokes, Summer Break pretty much over. My family is gearing up for a new schedule as our kiddos go back to school on Tuesday. I saw a very sweet Instagram short this week that we’re going to test drive on Monday morning: ‘Practice Donuts’. After a lazy summer, our kiddos need to get back into the practice of getting up to an alarm clock and hustling to get out the door. We’ll rehearse our morning drill the day before school starts. Kids will get up at their scheduled time, eat breakfast, brush their teeth, comb their hair, get dressed and head out to the bus stop. Instead of getting on the bus, though, Nate will be waiting at the stop with our truck and we’ll all load up and go out for donuts! Creating fun and easy family traditions is one of my favorite things to do for my family, especially when I realize that these easy tasks will create lasting core memories for my littles. 
Do you have any first day of school traditions with your family? I love this stuff and would love to hear from you!

 

TEN TOOLS FOR LIFE AND WORK

The book I just finished reading was a simple narrative about coming from curiosity. Instead of jumping to judgement, the author encourages us to be curious. Check out “Change Your Questions Change Your Life” by Marilee Goldberg, Ph.D. As a coach, one of the most important things I can do to sharpen my own knives is to examine different perspectives and the best way to do this is to ask powerful questions. Dr. Goldberg designed a Choice Map for people to follow when making decisions, working as a team, or approaching obstacles. We get to decide every day if we want to go down the path of a Judger or a Learner. In BOLD, we learn that while we can never control our first thought, we can ALWAYS control what happens next. This map helps us examine our trains of thought in a more purposeful, productive manner. 

 

  1. Empower your Observer
  2. Use the Choice Map as a Guide
  3. Put the power of questions to work
  4. Distinguish Learner and Judger mindset and questions
  5. Make friends with your Judger
  6. Question your assumptions
  7. Take advantage of Switcher Questions
  8. Create Learner teams
  9. Create breakthroughs with Q-Storming
  10. Ask the 12 Questions for Success

TWELVE QUESTIONS

  1. What do I want?
  2. What are my choices?
  3. What assumptions am I making?
  4. What am I responsible for?
  5. How else can I think about this?
  6. What is the other person thinking/feeling/wanting?
  7. Is there something I am avoiding?
  8. What can I learn from this?
  9. Which action step makes the most sense?
  10. What questions should I ask?
  11. How can I turn this into a win/win?
  12. What is actually possible?

These questions and the Choice Map (below and LINKED HERE) are just a few ways we can overcome obstacles and crush through our own self-inflicted limitations. I hope you find this informative and helpful. 

 

As always, it is an honor and a privilege to be in business with each and every one of you. 

Best,

Coach Lins 

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